F7LN: Fredi Nyashia's 7 Loves..Nstruments of Nspiration

Today, October 11, is the International Day of the Girl. Since 2011, this day has been observed as a day to empower, speak to, advocate for, and uplift girls and women. It is a day to create or increase awareness of gender equality, as well as the adversities that girls and women around the world face in today’s society. Using opportunities to demonstrate what girls and women stand form as well as creating relevant conversations and uplifting the female voice, while also being in ACTION is essential.

Here are videos featuring girls, young ladies, and women, where the question was asked “what key issue do you feel that girls and women face today is important to you and how do you feel you and others can address it?” View, share, and encourage dialogue not just today but moving forward to work towards resolutions and empowering our girls and women. And feel free to comment with an issue that speaks to you and what you can/will do to take action.

“Mistreatment of Women In the Middle East” – Anayah

“Women Being Targeted Sexually” – Jazmyne

“Respect/Discrimination In The Work Place” – Mikayla

“Body Image” – Tiffany Sharp

“Imagery In the Media” – Fredricka

I recently embarked on a 31-day “Self Love” Challenge, which has been pretty exciting. These types of challenges can embody pampering oneself, self-affirmations, ways to reinforce confidence, and a variety of other things. I decided to look at the ways that I show love and do things for other people (that I rarely do for myself) and do 31 things for me. I also invited others to join me or shared these to expand love to others. Demonstrating and truly showing myself love in action, words, deeds, and more has been uplifting. It is often said you cannot pour from an empty cup, so it’s important to pour into oneself and allow others to do so. As a result, we can then pour into others. I want to share that with you, for anyone else that may want to take this on.

My 31-Day Challenge Ideas:

Images from my 31-Day Self-Love Challenge:

I can often find it difficult to “let go”. Well, in some circumstances, so let me clarify. Two of the closest men in my life over the last 12 years have passed, my dad and one of my brothers. Surprisingly, those were not the hardest things to deal with. I think because I have an understanding and acceptance around death that every life is a gift for a season and that ultimately I’m grateful for the time God granted me to have them in my life, it makes it easier, though I miss them.

However, I find that in dealing with relationships, friendships, unexplained moments when people move on or depart to be more challenging. Because I don’t always understand or have a sense of why, that makes it hard to accept and “let go”. At times, I’m still searching to know a person or relationship’s intentions, and I tend to think the best of people and situations. Though I may tell myself, sometimes I won’t understand, know why, and to accept beyond having answers, it can be challenging when you long to hold onto a person or relationship that is dear to your heart.

Recently I’ve faced questions and resolutions to my own feelings, thoughts and clarity on people, things, and relationships and was blessed by a video by R.C. Blakes that examines the fact that God often multiplies and brings abundance..our next season of increased fruitfulness, by first subtracting from our lives.

To notate some of Blakes initial points, he highlights the fact that: “When people walk out of your life for no known reason, you have to view it as God moving them out of your life” and it’s important that you accept it and even make it easy for them to leave.

Every time someone has moved on or walk out of your life, God is actually promoting you. You may not have realized this because the enemy has you focused who left your life, rather than what God has and/or is depositing in your life. Instead of being hung up on the relationship that expired, we are often blinded to the favor that is currently in or coming into your life that others are not equipped or meant to participate in.

One way of looking at it is: “God has a first-class ticket for a flight to your destiny, but you’re so focused on trying to bring a bag that God has not cleared for you to check or bring with you. Rather than catching your flight, you sit depressed over the bag.”

Many times God is pruning you (ie. cutting off relationships, responsibilities) for you to function in the next level of your life. He longs for us all to be continually fruitful. God is more concerned with you being fruitful than you being comfortable. And there are times he must bring us through some uncomfortable circumstances including letting go of things and people who are not going to be apart of the next level of your life. In the next level of your life, you hold a unique message and blessing to share with others. Instead of focusing on holding on to relationships & people, it’s time to focus on that message you have for the world & God is trying to bring you to the stage.

Right when we are on the brink of an explosion of growth, increase & success, things we thought would be a constant in our lives are often cut off or eliminated. People, relationships, friendships that we long to hold on to suddenly end and many times it is when we are in the grips of our greatest season. And it is not just ok but hopefully inspiring to “let go”, for you to to begin to see the manifestation of the greatness that is ahead of you.

To hear the entire R.C.Blakes message, check out the video. I hope it blesses you too.

Calling all runners, walkers, youth, families..are you ready for Taking It To The Streets 2018!! “Taking It To The Streets” Half Marathon/5K is a race through out the streets of Calumet City, in the heart of the south suburbs of Chicago & Indiana border. This race has a flat & new route that makes the 13.1 or 3.1 mile race go smooth and fast, but more importantly fun and for all levels of runners. Looking forward to seeing you there!!

Register now at: https://runsignup.com/Race/IL/CalumetCity/TakingItTotheStreets

Being in a position to empower young women, as well as men is a blessing and honor. I find myself at times reflecting on the sense of responsibility I feel to pour into those who have come after me in a way our ancestors and previous generations have into me.

Recently a young woman confided in me that someone she frequently interacts with, had done something that made her feel uncomfortable. Like many women we have seen recently with the eruption of the #MeToo movement, often we are unsure of how to handle the situation.

After listening, I advised her that to share how she felt with that person (who may not have realized the reaction his action caused) was important. Not only does it inform the person of something he may not be aware of and should take into consideration in the future, but it also allows for her voice to be heard. It was important for me to encourage her to speak up to him about how she felt.

I understood her, because when I was slightly younger than she was, I had an interaction with a co-worker that made me uncomfortable. He touched me inappropriately in an elevator. I backed up in shock, pushing away and as the elevator doors opened I briskly walked/ran out. I never spoke to the man afterwards, as he didn’t work in my department. And other than one female co-worker, I didn’t tell anyone else. I was 17/18 years old, I was a new intern in a corporate environment of people mostly 30 and older, he was married, and his mother worked at the company. I took the stance that I didn’t want to cause any commotion and pushed the fact that the incident happened to the side. Luckily for me, he didn’t try it again or do anything else. I imagine my reaction spoke volumes of his unwanted advance. However, in a time where many women have come forward about dealing with similar incidents or worst, I recognize many may have felt exactly like I did.

So to address this young lady before me, it was important not only that I shared my experience so she knew she wasn’t alone and I could relate. I did not want her to continue on in life feeling she had to accept being left feeling uncomfortable or unempowered to speak her mind and confront issues that she may deal with in the future.

As a result, she did have the opportunity to address the concern and the person. The man was completely taken back not realizing what he meant as an innocent gesture, made her feel uncomfortable and he apologized. As a result of a simple dialogue, being free to express one’s feelings, and a space of listening, humility, and understanding, the two are alright with each other.

In retrospect, I wish I had someone who had encouraged me in dealing with something of this matter in my past. However, I’m grateful that I’ve grown and been placed in positions and opportunities where supporting and encouraging another can make a difference in the lives of a young person.

If I can share anything that can contribute to our society today, it is that communication and having a dialogue where empathy and understanding is sought, as well as creating a space that is safe for people to share their feelings, be humble, vulnerable, as well as authentic and truthful would go a long way to address much of issues we see in the world. Demonstrating this, simple compassion, could be one of the greatest gifts we can give to the next generations.

Who would’ve ever thought I would write a post about a bike & link it to Black male educators? No correlation, right? Well, you’ll see..

The discovery of a crack in my bike frame the day before South Beach Triathlon, didn’t seem like a big deal, despite the serious concerns from the bike shop worker. I was in gorgeous Miami and excited about my first outdoor triathlon of the year, so my only response was “well, its the only bike I have & I’m doing this race.”

Post race & returning to Chicago, I began inquiring & trying to figure out how I was going to salvage or get another bike. Just as watching Facebook posts of people out on rides was starting to make me feel like the the kid that couldn’t go outside & play, here comes MTC3 (Major Taylor Cycling Club of Chicago) family to save the day!

Much love to James & Chuck! To call them bike enthusiasts would be the understatement of the decade. And to watch & hear them both make cases for me to choose between 2 different bike options was the equivalent of watching Serena & Venus go at it on the tennis court..lol. Two hours later, I decided on the faster option with some serious enhancements. Then I just had to wait about 2 weeks for the for the build and to get fitted.

Happily I can say, I recently picked him (yes, my bike is a him..lol) up and I’m too excited to get back out riding.

Now what does that have to do with Black male educators you ask? Well, just like my car, my previous bike, etc, I give them names. For the last day or so, I’d been pondering on what to call him. Since I feel like my new edition is more sleek, enhanced, and will allow for serious power & speed, I was leaning towards superhero names. After a little research, it just seemed to good to be true.

Born Jefferson Pierce, Black Lightning depicted as a teacher & principal from a crime-filled & violence-ridden neighborhood who acquired electrical superpowers, he puts to use his abilities to transform his community.

This past May 14th was the 3rd year since my dad, who was a teacher and educational administrator, passed and I recently have been setting the foundation for new initiatives transforming communities in honor of him. Recognizing the power of Black male educators, in particular to our young Black boys, is the reason Black Lightning speaks volumes. Black males, in particular, in these positions have a unique perspective & impact. My desire to uplift and see more means of transformation, as well as to portray and embrace this, is the reason, yes, my latest edition will be named ‘Black Lightning’.

And since my bike is black and blue, after seeing these images, it just seemed perfect.

My dad, not just an educator, but so much more will always be my superhero. So, not only do I hope to have a little superpower in my rides, but I imagine the thought of him being with me as I ride watching over me will not only make me smile, but also provide inspiration.

And to all the Black men serving to educate & uplift our children, perhaps sharing this will inspire you too. This is dedicated to you all.

You can stream “Black Lightning’ on Netflix.

Last week, along my Facebook feed was a link to a media outlet discussing the recent end of what had been termed a 17 year “feud” between Jada Pinkett-Smith and Gabrielle Union. It’s always interesting how the media & people can spin things to diminish the relationships between Black women.

In this clip (at 3:01) & articles, Jada nor Gabrielle could not even attest to anything specific happening between the two of them spurring them not to speak for almost 17 year. With people surrounding them both feeding into probably rumor and/or gossip, it took until recently for them to realize there wasn’t any basis for this supposed “feud”.

For this reason, I believe whole-heartedly in hearing from the horse’s mouth as they say. Even recently I’ve shared with family & friends dealing with conflict the importance of not putting much weight in innuendos, rumors, gossip, and he-said/she-said. It is hard to see people not coming together as a result of other people’s misunderstanding, personal interpretation, or even hidden agenda and this is common amongst us, Black sisters. All it takes is a conversation and as Gabrielle said letting go of pride or insecurity for us ALL to rise!

Everything happens for a reason, so as a result of this article, I’m able to write and encourage us to reflect and think on what we truly put stock into and hopefully open up the lines of communication, show empathy and understanding.

And as a result, in addition to seeing two or more sisters independently being great, imagine what can accomplish together. I’m embarking on an endeavor that will uplift & speak to not only Black women, but also men, our children, our voices, relationships, families, and more. In the meantime, I also want to share and encourage each other in love & grace with one another.

In addition to this, I have been blessed to see Jada’s recent FB release of “The Red Table” and encourage all my sisters to check it out. The pilot on “Motherhood” had me in tears as it was beautiful.

Be blessed today, queens..my sisters.

SOUTH BEACH TRIATHLON 2018…CHECK!
Now that this race has been completed, check out the video and images below as I give you a breakdown of how that day really went! It was a thrilling experience including pitfalls, successes, and waves of emotions (pun intended). And I must thank L David Stewart of Year 60 Photography, as well as United Healthcare for capturing such memorable moments of the day (see below)!!!

I decided to share daily clips of me as I prepare for my first outdoor triathlon of 2018. South Beach Triathlon. 4.15.2018 is the date and oh what I ride it is becoming…

Day 1: https://youtu.be/HrB5Zfnm01g

Day 2: https://youtu.be/vVIBc7Kl4Y0

Day 3: https://youtu.be/0yJi1sWBG_4

Day 4: See Day 5

Day 5: Part 1 – https://youtu.be/2ZxtE0JYUNE

Day 5: Part 2 – https://youtu.be/TtlY9bujC44

Day 6: Part 1 – https://youtu.be/-okN4W0mr8

Day 6: Part 2 – https://youtu.be/ziu2xQscZNA

Day 7: *RACE DAY* https://youtu.be/79G4G8ndbBg

On March 17, 2018, it was a blessing to have the opportunity to speak at the annual all women’s L.E.A.P. Conference. L.E.A.P., stands for Ladies who are Educated and have A Purpose. Young women, as well as a variety of generations of speakers, session leaders, and event hosts convened for some powerful moments of partaking wisdom & advice, sharing experiences, networking, connecting, praying and indulging in a true sisterhood event. Check out some of the captured moments from this awesome event!